It Used To Be - "First You Blame the Student, Then You Blame the Parent"

I know I am probably one of the few parents who see the school district for what it is. For those who are waiting on the public to cause a change within the system, it may never happen.

First of all, there are too many "transplants" that are not "rooted" to go up against the "rooted" establishment.


Secondly, with so many snow birds that don't have kids, they don't care.

Lastly, as this post says it all, it takes a lot to fight. It takes time, money, intellectual and emotional resources, intelligence and perseverance. But first, it takes the ability to analyze it for what it is. For the parents who have money, they take their kids out when they see what they are up against. I did the same for my regular ed kids when the situation called for it. For the rest of the parents, it is extremely difficult to bring about accountability when obfuscation is the name of the game.

What gets me is, each faction is complaining about the same thing. Each one defines it from their perspective, but there is no accountability.

I have many times mocked the statement "first you blame the kid, then you blame the parent". It has been a staple of the system defense.

But, as always in dysfunctional cultures, they start to eat their own. This cannibalism has been happening. I just don't think people recognize it for what it is. A teacher here, a teacher there. Especially the ones who are for positive change, but don't know to protect themselves.

Here is a question for all of the teachers: How many of you have, in one way or another, if not directly verbatim, been told: "Don't bite the hand that feeds you" when you try to right a wrong.

It is my understanding that it happens a lot.

I have been watching for this phrase for years, and here it is: ""Blame the teachers!" I am sick of this mantra." - posted by an anon.

It is what it is.